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December 7, 2011

Accelerate Team Learning With Practical Neuroscience

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One of the landmark references to “team learning” appeared in Peter Senge’s Fifth Discipline (1990), where he said,  “The discipline of team learning starts with ‘dialogue‘, the capacity of members of a team to suspend assumptions and enter into a genuine ‘thinking together’ …. [It] also involves learning how to recognize the patterns of interaction in teams that undermine learning.”  Let’s look at, explore and expand Senge’s concept of team learning in the light of modern and practical neuroscience.

Team learning, thinking and performance form a coherent trio of what a team strives to do together. Dialogue is a method for communicating with one another about topics, situations and challenges of shared interest. The goal of dialogue includes expansion of individual and collective knowledge. Effective and successful communication requires all parties to be willing to exchange information with an open and flexible mind.

True dialogue involves understanding diverse points of view rather than defending a position and attacking others. Suspending assumptions and judgment about what’s true or false and surrendering the personal need to be right allow team members to make a giant step toward consciously learning from one another. This applies both to one-on-one and “team” dynamics in your personal and professional life.

If the true purpose of dialogue is “learning and thinking together,” perhaps most communication exchanges do not fit this description. Think about how much time the people you live and work with spend in true dialogue. “Non-dialogue” communications involve telling people what to think, defending and attacking, complaining, providing irrelevant information and emoting with the sole purpose of protecting one’s ego.

True dialogue can be conducted in two forms:

Non-directive dialogue is when two or more people get together with no specific agenda or topic. They meet in a quiet and comfortable environment, free from external interruptions and sounds. The idea of non-directive dialogue is to expose subconscious thoughts about what may be blocking or limiting team success and to reveal opportunities for breakthrough thinking. The process can be awkward and painfully slow for newcomers; expert facilitation is recommended.  At least one hour should be allotted for a session; this can be a problem when people are focused on the clock and getting visibly productive work done. Non-directive dialogue is a powerful and transformative procedure for team members who trust one another, feel safe in each other’s presence, are daring and willing to be vulnerable, and have the desire to “leapfrog” team performance.

Directive dialogue revolves around exchanging information important to team performance, with the goal of building core competencies, creating and improving products and services, solving problems and making good decisions. This can occur in meetings, retreats, email exchanges, phone conversations and teleconferences. Directive dialogue sessions have great potential for leveraging team member’s know-how and decreasing communication time. Teams rarely think about aligning their people’s interests and competencies with subject matter and the best ways and times to communicate, but team productivity and performance will soar when teams develop and implement their communication methodologies.

The missing link for team communication success is statistically validated information about each person’s sensory and cognitive pathway strengths for learning, thinking and communicating. This knowledge helps the team communicate effectively with one another and leverages their collective brainpower for “whole brain thinking.”  Foundational practical neuroscience data on how team member’s brains are wired for success is the basis for exceptional team learning, thinking and performance.

In conclusion, dialogue, whether directive or non-directive, is the “high road” pathway for team learning and thinking success. It involves suspending judgment, opinions and positions.  Successful dialogue requires open and flexible minds to understand diverse perceptions, observations and thinking.  There is no right or wrong in true dialogue; what matters the most is the apparent best course of action for the good of the team and its stakeholders. All teams benefit from leveraging their brain strengths for communication success. Practical neuroscience methods such as these are the ideal solution to strengthen team communication and accelerate team learning, resulting in greater team success.

November 16, 2011

Three Reasons Why People Talk More and Listen Less

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Have you noticed that many people can’t remember what was said, interrupt others regularly, rarely ask genuine questions and generally have poor listening skills? Has attentive and respectful listening gone out of style since the advent of TV, computer technology, cell phones, texting and video games? I wonder if people were more “auditory,” from a listening standpoint, when distractions were fewer, people engaged in more mealtime conversations and radio was a bigger source of news and entertainment.

Our worldwide statistics show that 78% of the population least prefers to listen as a primary way to receive sensory information; these people prefer to take in information visually and kinesthetically. Why do people who least prefer to listen select talking as their preferred way to express themselves? Practical neuroscience and common sense reveal possible reasons and provide pathways to improve listening competencies.

Reasons Why People Talk More and Listen Less

  • Lack of awareness: I believe most people are unaware of how their poor listening skills negatively impact rapport, harmony and understanding others. Interrupting, “tuning out” others and raising one’s voice to get attention serve no useful purpose; hurt feelings often occur and important information is lost. As a practical matter, meager listening takes a steep toll on valuable time that could be used for other things. At worst, important relationships can be put in jeopardy and may crash. These factors are why people benefit from being informed of how their brains are wired to receive and process information. Practical neuroscience reveals our sensory and cognitive processing strengths, thus providing a simple recipe to communicate with others in optimal ways.
  • Busy Schedules: During an executive coaching session, I asked a person about his listening competency. His reply was, “it’s poor and I don’t care because I don’t have time to listen.” He went on to say, “I prefer to receive information by email, text and brief discussions when walking with a colleague to a meeting or during mealtime.” I asked him what impact his tactics would have on his morale and productivity if he walked in the shoes of his direct reports and peers.  He then asked how he could be a better listener; the Hot Tips (below) summarize what I suggested. Within a week of using these new “high road” listening tactics, this busy executive received positive feedback from three people saying they enjoyed working with him and it seemed like he was different person.
  • Maintaining Control: As long as you are talking, you don’t have to listen, answer questions or respond to other people. A higher form of talking is using language understandable to others, stating the purpose of the communication and asking questions to confirm their understanding. Listening requires attention, focus, personal involvement and feedback. Attentive and respectful listening sends a strong message that you care about the other person; talking, alone, may introduce an element of doubt about your intention and integrity.

Hot Tips for Being a Better Listener

  • Ask for the purpose and desired outcomes of the conversation.
  • Respectfully, set a time period for the discussion, if time is an issue.
  • Do not interrupt and impose your opinion.
  • Ask questions to gain clarity and understanding.
  • Listen for congruency of tone-of-voice and body language with what’s being said.
  • Paraphrase what you hear.

In conclusion, improved listening skills pay big dividends of relationship rapport, mutual respect, understanding others and making effective use of available time. Based on statistics, most people should talk less and communicate more visually and kinesthetically. Practical neuroscience methods are the ideal solution for “transmitting” information on the preferred “receiving wavelengths” of others.

September 1, 2011

Can Practical Neuroscience Methods Help Adults with ADHD?

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A recent St. Louis public TV special on Adult ADHD stimulated my thinking about this rapidly growing phenomenon. My first reaction was that I possess several characteristics of ADHD and wonder what an accurate diagnosis would reveal. I then thought about people I work with who have one or more ADHD symptoms and are competent, accomplished and self-fulfilled individuals with successful careers and harmonious personal relationships. I have used practical neuroscience strategies for over two decades to learn and perform in areas I never thought possible. These thoughts gave me hope that self-help is possible for tens of millions of people suffering from this condition.

My questions are:

  • Can adults diagnosed with ADHD help themselves manage specific negative traits?
  • Is the rate of adult ADHD growing and getting worse, or are increased awareness of the problem and improved diagnosis methods, finally revealing a human condition that has been around for a very long time?
  • What effect does physical environment, the economy and world affairs have on this condition?
  • What, besides prescription drugs and psychotherapy, may help people with mild and severe symptoms?

The following is a short list of Adult ADHD symptoms and traits, which may become more manageable using practical neuroscience self-help methods. Severe behavioral symptoms that typically require a combination of prescription drugs and psychotherapy are not addressed here. The list is organized by the three commonly used ADHD categories. Following each trait is a summary of how self-awareness of sensory and cognitive thinking strengths and “blind spots” may provide some level of relief and increased performance.

Hyperactivity

1. Impulsive movement, fidgeting and touching things

A high percentage of the population is comprised of Kinesthetic learners. Their world revolves around physical movement, hands-on activities and how things feel. When Kinesthetic preferences are significantly stronger and more dominant than Visual and Auditory preferences, the Kinesthetic traits associated with ADHD become more observable and may appear extreme. This imbalance can be managed by strengthening the next strongest sensory pathway, Visual or Auditory. Jobs, household activities, hobbies and sports activities, requiring extensive use of Kinesthetic skill sets, are healthy and productive outlets for highly Kinesthetic individuals.

Impulsivity

2. Interrupting others

Most people are poor listeners and do not realize how little meaning they extract from what is said. Very few are able to detect underlying feelings and intention by listening to tone-of-voice. Talking over other people and interrupting is frequently an unconscious act of people with low Auditory preferences and can undermine relationships. When individuals know their Auditory acuity is low, they can improve communication effectiveness in conversations by merely being more aware that they are poor listeners. This shift in awareness actually improves their listening ability through focus on their “non-preference.” Paraphrasing what they heard, making comfortable eye contact and asking questions to gain clarity strengthen listening ability, while improving relationship harmony. Everyone can gain from these practical neuroscience communication methods.

3. Switching tasks rapidly

Some people’s brains are wired to think Globally, in terms of the “big picture.” They live in a world of possibilities and options and are comfortable with open-ended situations. They naturally tend to jump around from task to task, giving casual observers the impression that they are accomplishing very little. Global thinking people have much to offer the world, however, when it comes to identifying future solutions and outcomes for current situations in need of change. Individuals with this cognitive preference should align themselves with Global activities to make use of their strengths. Global thinkers should also consider seeking help with life’s practical matters from Sequential-thinking, trusted advisors.

Inattention

4. Time management and organization

Issues with time management and organization may share the same core cause as rapid task switching. Time management and organizations skills can be learned under most circumstances. This is where Sequential-thinking family members and co-workers can  role model and coach Sequential skills.

5. Work related mistakes and accidents

Every person has “blind spots” related to their least preferred sensory and cognitive pathways.  Decreased attention to these pathways means increased likelihood of mistakes and accidents. Examples include:

  • Low Auditory – may not hear something important
  • Low Visual  – may miss seeing something important
  • Low Kinesthetic  – may be physically awkward and clumsy
  • Low Sequential – may not follow logical steps or safe protocols
  • Low Global – may miss identifying possibilities and options when logic fails

Awareness of “blind spots” allows for increased focus, when the risk of a mistake or accident is highest.

It’s also advisable to have trusted friends “cover your blind spots” with their strengths.

6. Taking longer to complete tasks than others

This condition is common to all people, as a function of their sensory and cognitive thinking strengths and “blind spots.” You tend to get more, productive work done, when using your strongest and most preferred pathways. What most people do not know is that they can boost personal productivity by creating a physical environment conducive to doing specific tasks and activities. Examples:

  • Auditory tasks – quiet and interruption free environment
  • Visual tasks – organized, attractive, uncluttered environment
  • Kinesthetic tasks – comfortable environment that allows movement
  • Sequential tasks – formal environment
  • Global tasks – informal environment

Performing tasks in compatible environments often boosts productivity by 20% -60%.

7. Relationship conflicts

Nearly everyone has difficulty communicating with some of the people in their life. This is when his or her “transmitting style” is out-of-sync with another person’s “receiving style.” Some combinations of sensory sequence and cognitive processing style place a person at high risk to be out of alignment with a large percentage of the people they interact with at home and work. Knowing the communication preferences of others, allows adjustment of one’s “transmitting style” to their “receiving styles,” thus enhancing rapport and understanding.

In conclusion, you have nothing to lose by learning how your brain is wired to receive and process sensory information and by knowing your “blind spots.” These insights may be what you need to know to manage your ADHD symptoms, regardless of your diagnosis. You may be delighted and surprised by how much you can improve and achieve with self-administered and safe practical neuroscience knowledge and tools. Look online for trusted sources of statistically validated practical neuroscience assessment products like Brain PathWays™ to help you and your loved ones relieve Adult ADHD symptoms.

August 25, 2011

Secret Weapon For Job Hunters and Career Changers

Your secret weapon is how your brain is wired for performance excellence. Job hunters and career changers will differentiate themselves from the competition and accelerate their success rates by integrating practical neuroscience into the search and interview process. Combining your brain strengths with passion for a specific career is a foolproof way to land, keep and enjoy the “right job.”

It can be so incredibly frustrating when you apply for job opportunities that seem to fit you perfectly, but get no response. Your experience, achievements, education and values seem to be in perfect alignment with the job requirements. As you begin to feel like a “speed bump” from all the disappointments, you get back up, put on your “happy face” and keep the faith that you will soon experience success. In the meantime, stress may take hold and affect your peace-of-mind, health and relationships. You probably wonder what else you can do to give you renewed direction, confidence and an edge on the competition.

If you’ve read “What Color Is Your Parachute?” by Richard N. Bolles, you may have used tools from this job hunting guide to analyze your achievements, skills, competencies and preferences. This classic treasure helps you navigate your career journey. The problem is that there are fewer jobs available and more people actively competing for them. There is one small omission of a little known strength category in this wonderful book. This strength is almost always ignored by job hunters, career changers and employers alike. The job seeker who leverages this strength gains a unique advantage during the screening and interview process.

Most strength groupings seem to focus on “how smart you are,” rather than the “ways in which you are smart.” This is where practical neuroscience enters the picture. The most fundamental and ignored “strength category” is your sensory and cognitive pathways strengths:

Sensory Pathway Strengths

  • Visual: “Picture Smart” (design, graphic arts, data entry, quality control observations, reading body language, eye for detail, remembering what was seen and how it looked)
  • Kinesthetic: “Body Smart” (“gut feel” and instinct for what to do, hands-on activities, projects involving movement and action, building and repairing things, tools and equipment)
  • Auditory: “Word Smart” (listening attentively and patiently, asking questions, copy writing, speech and proposal writing, negotiating, public speaking, coaching and counseling)

Cognitive Pathway Strengths

  • Sequential: “Logic Smart”  (orderliness, sequence,  process and procedures, practical and realistic, schedules and budgets, content, data and accuracy, staying on task)
  • Global: “Imagination Smart” (“big picture”, brainstorming, ideating, inventing, creative problem solving, research, open-ended situations, context, options and possibilities)
  • Integrated: “Balanced Brain Smart” (managing diverse teams, conflict resolution, negotiating highly different points-of-view, combination of strategic and operational initiatives)

All job activities have “neuro-signatures” comprised of a unique combination of sensory and cognitive characteristics. Alignment of how your brain is wired with the “neuro-signatures” of job activities is a secret formula for performance excellence. As an example, IT professionals with strong Visual and Sequential strengths have higher productivity and make fewer mistakes than co-workers who have different brain wiring strengths. A telemarketer or copywriter should have strong Auditory preferences, with a good balance of Sequential and Global strengths to craft language into understandable and memorable messages.

In conclusion, it’s quick and easy to determine your sensory and cognitive strengths using reliable statistically validated assessments you can trust. The next step is to think about job activities that you find engaging and enjoy the most. These will inevitably involve and call for your brain strengths. The final step is to use this unique and powerful knowledge in your cover letters, resume, “elevator speeches,” emails, phone calls and personal interviews. Educating the interviewer and your future boss about unique competencies afforded by your sensory and cognitive strengths will set you apart from competition. Combining your brain strengths with your experience and passion for a specific career is a foolproof way to land, keep and enjoy the job you dream about.

July 5, 2011

Three Secret Hot Tips for Exceptional Rapport and Communication

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Nearly everyone desires exceptional rapport and communications with people they love and care about; this is the key to building successful and healthy long-term relationships. Professional relationships also require communication excellence to convey information efficiently and gain understanding quickly for people to do their jobs properly.

The core premise for exceptional rapport and communication is anchored in practical neuroscience. Achieving communications excellence requires attentiveness to everyone’s unique preferences for taking in and processing information. When you align your transmitting style with another’s preferred receiving style, you exponentially increase the probability for greater rapport and understanding. This is because people immediately become aware that you are on “their wavelength.” It is also important to respect the other person’s views, values and where they are coming from. These principles have enormous implications in all human relationships.

Hot Tip #1: Seek to understand before being understood

People relate to one another better when there is mutual respect and some level of caring about each other’s well being. In work situations, be sure to take the time to build sound relationship foundations, even if there are areas of disagreement and conflict. These foundations are particularly useful when time is of the essence to get things accomplished in stressful situations.

Interrupting one another to drive-home points-of-view, before paying attention and understanding each other, is a “dead end street.” Interruptions usually result in confusion, anger and resentment. It’s not necessary to agree with one another. Understanding respective positions, rationale and thinking, however, are required to co-exist peacefully. One can always find areas of commonality to move forward, no matter how far apart you may seem.

Hot Tip #2: Align with the person’s sensory and cognitive thinking preferences

Auditory learners prefer to listen and ask questions. Be sure to ask them to paraphrase their understanding of what you said; likewise, repeat back to them what you heard them say. They need quiet and interruption free environments to listen deeply and process what was heard.

Visual learners prefer to see instructions, progress reports and general information in visual form with a minimum of words. Use email, mind maps and white boards to convey key points. They prefer uncluttered environment to avoid distraction from what they are looking at.

Kinesthetic learners prefer hands-on interactions, when receiving and processing information. They need to incorporate movement and touch, when looking at or hearing about the subject matter. Provide for physical comfort, movement and frequent breaks.

Sequential thinkers prefer information presented in orderly, logical and realistic ways. They want facts, figures and data from reliable sources. Sequential thinkers prefer bright light and a formal work environment.

Global thinkers prefer the “big picture,” possibilities and options. They thrive in open-ended situations where they can use their imagination. Global thinkers prefer informal and unstructured environments.

Hot Tip #3:Match, Match, Match

Rapport language means specific types of words, which resonate with Auditory, Visual and Kinesthetic learners and Sequential and Global thinkers. Use the appropriate rapport language to match the preferences of others. To learn more about this, contact the author for a free, one-page Rapport Language List. The email link is on the Brain PathWays™ web site.

Vocal speed varies, depending on the person’s strongest sensory pathway. Pay attention to the other person’s vocal speed and match it respectfully, so they experience language alignment with you.

Body Language reveals what the person is experiencing and feeling. Imagine yourself as their dance partner. Be respectful and match subtly with similar, but not exact, movements. Make comfortable eye contact when eyes meet. Staring may make a person feel uncomfortable, whereas no eye contact may send the message that you are not interested.

In summary, secret hot tips for exceptional rapport and communication are simple and quick practical neuroscience methods that connect you with another person on deep and meaningful levels. These practices are based on conscious and respectful transmission of your message, in the way that the other person’s brain is wired to receive and process information most effectively. All personal and professional relationships you care about will benefit from these brain-based hot tips. The outcomes are always greater understanding, increased respect and enhanced ability to solve problems and move forward together.

March 23, 2011

Watch Sparks Fly Between Sequential and Global Thinkers

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Watch the sparks fly when people, having radically different ways of thinking, interact with one another at work, home and social gatherings. If your cognitive strength is Sequential thinking (e.g. logical and orderly), you likely perceive people with Global thinking strengths as impractical and unrealistic dreamers. If your strength is Global thinking (e.g. imagination and ideating), you may view and describe Sequential thinkers as unoriginal and tedious plodders.

The Destructive Sparks of Judgment

People having similar interests, goals and personality tend to attract one another. Interpersonal conflict occurs when people are not aware of each other’s unique ways to learn, think, work, communicate, solve problems and make decisions. This potential conflict has no boundaries. It occurs between spouses, family members, friends and co-workers. Love, friendship and common goals are not always sufficient for harmonious relationships.

All too often, people hold the opinion that the way they think and process information is the “right way” and perhaps the “only way.” The destructive sparks from people with diverse brain strengths clashing with one another can cause interpersonal conflict and stress. Clashes like this also limit the possibility of mutual understanding and growth. These are the sparks of judgment and closed minds. Left unattended, they result in divorce, wounded relationships and unhappy careers.

Subtle and Big Dangers

People having the same cognitive thinking strengths often get along with one another and experience high levels of rapport and agreement. Similar thinking strengths attract. The absence of “sparks” gives them a false sense of security that all is well and they are on the right path. The danger is that they may be operating in a lopsided cognitive manner and missing a whole brained approach to life and what they are doing together.

Sequential Cognitive Thinking “Blind Spots”

Sequential thinkers’ “blind spots” are what they pay least attention to and are the strengths of Global thinkers. Sequential thinkers tend to approach projects and problems in an organized and logical manner, overlooking the larger sphere of options and possibilities. Their focus and attention to detail, order, accuracy and timeliness shunts their attention from context, purpose and desired outcomes. While being highly productive and keeping within budget, sequential thinkers may not give adequate time thinking about the bigger picture, what’s changing in the world, optimum direction and best ways to proceed. They may miss seeing both risks and opportunities around them due to their “blind spots.”

Global Cognitive Thinking “Blind Spots”

Global thinkers’ “blind spots” are Sequential thinkers’ strengths. Global thinkers approach their personal and professional life from an orientation to the future. They live in their imagination doing creative problem solving, ideating new possibilities and inventing things. Global thinkers’ focus on future outcomes tends to isolate them from the practicalities of what needs to be accomplished to achieve the outcome they envision. Global “blind spots” include absence of time requirements, logic, orderliness, realism, identifying obstacles, getting other people on-board with their ideas and developing a comprehensive tactical implementation plan. Global thinkers have challenges getting single tasks accomplished with high levels of productivity.

The Challenge

The challenge is to acknowledge, respect and join global and sequential cognitive thinking strengths to create a “whole brain” approach. This applies to all human interactions from intimate relationships to entire organizations. Joining minds of diverse strengths is the key to creating positive and sustainable change through continuous improvement. The challenge involves suspending judgment that one way of thinking is the best way and to embrace brain strength diversity. Integrous people know and leverage their strengths and the strengths of others.

In Conclusion

People who know how to identify, align with and leverage each other’s brain strengths experience rapport and understanding. They solve problems, make sound decisions and move mountains. Brains working together collaboratively are like millions of spark plugs creating new neuro-pathways where every participant is a benefactor. The effect is radically different from watching sparks fly from people not acknowledging, respecting and leveraging each other’s brain strengths.

March 16, 2011

Communicating on Their Wavelength: How to Connect With Kinesthetic Communicators

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Do you have a spouse, friend or business associate with strong preferences for Kinesthetic communications? If you communicate similarly to them, you probably have some natural rapport based on physical action, movement and touch as a preferred way to receive information. If you prefer Visual (seeing information) or Auditory (hearing information) interactions over Kinesthetic, you and the other person may be experiencing strained and difficult communications. This is because both of you may not be receiving information on your preferred “wavelengths”, thus creating misunderstandings and frustration.

Everyone has their own unique and distinct preferences for taking in and processing sensory information, instructions, directions, requests and questions. When you customize and align your “transmitting style” with another’s preferred “receiving style,” you increase the probability for greater rapport and understanding. This neuroscience principle has enormous implications in all human relationships.

The following steps help you identify and connect with the Kinesthetic communicators in your life. Powerful neuroscience tools tune you into “kinesthetic wavelength” preferences to receive information, resulting in instant rapport, understanding and respect.

Step I: Identifying Kinesthetic Communicators

  • Strengths: Moving into physical action quickly, with a minimum of visual and auditory information; hands-on activities; operating vehicles, equipment and tools;“gut feel” for people and situations

  • Irritations: Physical discomfort; confined spaces; delays and obstacles; insufficient hands-on activities and things to physically do; long meetings with infrequent breaks; people who talk at rapid rates of speed
  • Enjoy: Hands-on activities; driving and moving about; building and repairing things; travel; sports; touching

Step II: Connecting to Kinesthetic Communicators

  • Universal Strategies: Seek to understand the other person’s point-of-view before expressing yours. Allow people to complete their thoughts and expressions before asking questions and trying to “second guess” what they are thinking. Make no assumptions and stay in the present moment. Keep an open mind.

  • Environment: Select a comfortable environment with freedom to move about. Kinesthetic communicators usually respond positively to taking a walk, playing golf, driving and mealtime communications. Having things to handle (e.g. koosh ball, models, table-toys, pens and pencils) facilitates their processing.

  • Primary Strategies: Kinesthetic communicators need to process what they see and/or hear with movement and physical action. Provide things to look at and touch. Combine walking, meals and field trips with discussions or reviewing materials. When pauses occur, allow time for “kinesthetic processing” (getting a feel for the information or situation.) Match their vocal speed; don’t talk too fast. Allow breaks every 20 minutes. Think: “What is their body language telling me? How can I incorporate more physical action into our communications?”

  • Use Kinesthetic Language: Kinesthetic communicators use and prefer language like: Feels good/bad. I have a gut feel about this. Let’s do it. I have a handle on this. Pull some strings. Get moving.

In conclusion, it’s easy to identify and connect with Kinesthetic communicators using simple and powerful neuroscience tools. This brain-based approach tunes you into their preferred “kinesthetic wavelength” to receive information, which results in instant rapport, understanding and respect. These principles and practices are applicable to intimate relationships, families, business, government and sales situations. How and what to communicate are two sides of the same coin. Most people focus on the “what” and wonder why some communications fail.

March 11, 2011

Communicating on Their Wavelength: How to Connect With Visual Communicators

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If you experience communication conflict with your spouse, friend or business associate, perhaps they are visual communicators and you have strong auditory or kinesthetic preferences. These differences may be the source of frustration and misunderstandings. Visual communicators have a natural ability to focus on visual detail, order, color and design. They need to “see,” visually, what you are attempting to communicate. They usually speak in a rapid tempo. Their clothing and accessories tend to be color coordinated and their work places are organized and attractive.

Aligning your “transmitting style” with their “receiving style” is the key to increasing the probability for greater rapport and understanding. This neuroscience principle has enormous implications in all human relationships. Everyone has their own unique and distinct preferences for taking in and processing sensory information, instructions, directions, requests and questions.

If you want good relationships, it’s important to identify the strongest preference for receiving information of the person with whom you’re communicating and then align your “transmitting style” to their “receiving style.”

Step I: How to Identify Visual Communicators

  • Strengths: Seeing, watching and proofreading; quality control observations; design, graphics, photography and art; remembering faces and what was seen; paying attention to visual detail and seeing things other people may miss
  • Irritations: Absence of visual media in information and requests from others; confusing visual material; visual disorder and clutter; unattractive environments; can’t find things; people who talk slower than them
  • Enjoy: Email, movies, magazines, people watching, museums, art, nature, doodling

Step II: How to Connect with Visual Communicators

  • General Strategies: Seek to understand the other person’s point-of-view before expressing yours. Allow people to complete their thoughts and expressions before asking questions and trying to “second guess” what they are thinking. Make no assumptions and stay in the present moment. Keep an open mind.
  • Visual Environment: Select an attractive, clean and organized environment. Use flip chart, white board, sketchpad, colored pens, pencils and markers to present and record information.
  • How to Communicate: Furnish visual information before and after all meetings and interactions involving progress reports, summaries, decisions, problem solving, instructions and directions. Visual information should be neat, attractive, organized and contain concise key points with a minimum of words. Use mind maps, graphs, charts, symbols and images. Employ flip charts and white boards. Even writing or drawing on a paper napkin during mealtime will help facilitate communication. Think:What can I ‘show’ these people that will help them understand?”
  • Employ Visual Language: Visual communicators use and prefer language like: Show me. Looks good. Draw me a picture. Look at it this way. I can’t see it. That’s clear to me. Things look bright and rosy.

In conclusion, it’s fast and easy to bond with Visual communicators using simple and powerful neuroscience tools. This brain-based approach aligns you with their visual preference for receiving information. The result is better relationships, greater understanding and shorter communication time. These neuroscience methods apply to intimate relationships, families, business and sales situations. How you communicate is as important as what you communicate. Most people only focus on what they are trying to communicate and then they are surprised when they don’t get their point across.

March 2, 2011

Communicate on Their Wavelength: How to Connect With Auditory Communicators

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Do you have a spouse, friend or business associate with strong preferences for Auditory communications? If you communicate similarly to them, you probably have some natural rapport, based on your preference for listening to the meaning of words to receive information. If you prefer Kinesthetic (movement, touch, physical action) or Visual (seeing information) interactions over Auditory, you and the other person may be experiencing strained and difficult communications. This is because both of you may not be receiving information on your preferred wavelengths, thus creating frustration over misunderstandings.

Everyone has their own unique and distinct preferences for taking in and processing sensory information, instructions, directions, requests and questions. When you customize and align your “transmitting style” with another’s preferred “receiving style,” you increase the probability for greater rapport and understanding. This neuroscience principle has enormous implications in all human relationships.

The following steps help you identify and connect with the Auditory communicators in your life. Powerful neuroscience tools tune you into “auditory wavelength” preferences for receiving information, resulting in instant rapport, understanding and respect.

Step I: Identifying Auditory Communicators

  • Strengths: Listening, discussions and asking questions; remembering sounds, words, what was heard and the tone-of-voice in which things were said; negotiations; crafting language

  • Irritations: Unexpected noise or sound while listening and working; interruptions while working or speaking;  people not paying attention and questioning what they say
  • Enjoy: Long discussions, debate, talk shows, theatre, phone calls, listening to voice mail and “playing back” conversations

Step II: Connecting to Auditory Communicators

  • Universal Strategies: Seek to understand the other person’s point-of-view before expressing yours. Allow people to complete their thoughts and expressions before asking questions and trying to “second guess” what they are thinking. Make no assumptions and stay in the present moment. Keep an open mind.

  • Environment: Select a quiet, peaceful and interruption free environment that is conducive to deep respectful listening.

  • Primary Strategies: Focus on what’s being said and their tone-of-voice. Maintain comfortable eye contact in face-to-face interactions. Take notes, if appropriate, to help you concentrate and show respect. When on the phone, close your eyes to remove visual distractions and focus on listening. Ask questions to clarify what’s being communicated. Periodically, paraphrase what you hear to confirm understanding. Allow ample time for processing information, asking and answering questions. Think: “What words can I use to help them understand me? What are they trying to convey to me with their words?”

  • Use Auditory Language: Auditory communicators use and prefer language like: I hear you loud and clear. Music to my ears. Tell me. Listen to this. Did you hear what I just said? Let me tell you what I think.

In conclusion, it’s easy to identify and connect with Auditory communicators using simple and powerful neuroscience tools. This brain-based approach tunes you into their preferred “auditory wavelength” to receive information, resulting in instant rapport, understanding and respect. These principles and practices apply to intimate relationships, families, business, government and sales situations, so you can connect with all of the Auditory communicators in your life.

February 17, 2011

Are You Playing With a Full Deck?

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Do you know how your brain is wired to process information, make decisions, solve problems and perform specific kinds of work most effectively? Are your trusted advisor’s brains wired the same or different than yours? While there is no good or bad way to think, you are not playing with a full deck unless you and your trusted advisors have a balance of cognitive thinking brain strengths in each of three categories.

Some people favor “left brain”  thinking and activities that are sequential, logical, orderly and predictable; other people prefer using their “right brain” for global, imaginative, creative and open-ended thinking; people in the third group are “Integrated”, preferring to think and work using a near equal balance of their left and right hemispheres.

How do you know you’re playing with a full deck? Just complete the 3 simple steps below:

Step I - Select the category that best describes you.

Category I – Left Brain (Sequential)

Close friends and associates may describe you as orderly, logical, practical and realistic. You think about and process information, data and facts in an organized, step-by-step manner. You prefer work with specific goals, schedules, processes and procedures, rather than open-ended situations with broad goals. You thrive in environments rich in logic, orderliness and timeliness. You prefer to complete one task at a time before starting another. You may get agitated if you have to juggle too many tasks at one time. You may make and follow lists. You prefer to solve problems and make decisions based on logic, facts and figures.

Category II – Right Brain (Global)

Close friends and associates may describe you as innovative, conceptual and visionary. You pay attention to broad goals, context, possibilities, and the “big picture”. You likely prefer for other people to manage process-driven, daily work involving high levels of repetition, accuracy and detail. You enjoy multi-tasking and moving from one thing to another. You get pleasure from systemic thinking, ideation, figuring out how things connect, and creating new ways to solve problems. You thrive in environments rich in concepts, innovation and new thinking. You seldom make and follow lists.

Category III Balanced (Integrated)

Close friends and associates may describe you as having the natural ability to understand diverse points of view. You process situations and information using an equal balance of Sequential (“left brain”) and Global (“right brain”) thinking. You understand and appreciate the Global world of open-ended possibilities, creativity and new thinking, and the Sequential world of tactical implementation, logic and practicality. You are good at negotiating and facilitating interpersonal situations. You get bored and lose interest in situations when there is an imbalance of Global and Sequential thinking and activities; variety and choice are important to you.

Step II – Identify your trusted advisors and select the category best describing them. Trusted advisors may be your spouse, employees, best friend, business associates, banker, accountant, attorney, consultants and other service providers.

Step III – Do your trusted advisors share your cognitive thinking strengths or do they have different strengths? You want one or more people in each of the three categories in order to have a “full deck.” Then ask yourself these two questions to determine whether you’re playing your full deck properly.

  • Are my trusted advisor’s cognitive thinking strengths aligned with what has to be accomplished? For strategic business planning you want to capture ideas, possibilities, options, future visioning and scenario planning from your strongest Global thinkers. The Sequential thinkers will contribute logic, order, performance metrics, schedules, practicality and budgets to the planning process. The Integrated thinkers will bridge gaps and negotiate between the Sequential and Global thinkers when there is conflict, confusion or misunderstanding.
  • What are my daily time wasters? Can I delegate these to one or more of my trusted advisors, who may be more motivated and better aligned to complete the activities? It’s easy to determine what category of thinking strengths applies to a specific task. Accounting is clearly a Sequential activity; creative problem solving is well suited for Global thinkers; managing in chaotic and rapidly changing environments is well suited for Integrated thinkers.

In conclusion, the greater the diversity of cognitive thinking, the greater the potential. A balance of thinking styles minimizes faulty assumptions and mistakes. You are likely to make better decisions, solve difficult problems quickly, and accomplish more, when you align work activities with your and your trusted advisor’s cognitive thinking strengths.

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