It’s “How” You Communicate That Matters
Have you ever wondered why you are in rapport and see eye-to-eye with some people, but with others, you seem to be on an entirely different wavelength, no matter what the topic is? Who are the people with whom you have the most difficulty communicating? Do you have any ideas or insights why you experience communication problems with these people and not others?
A key reason why you may be experiencing difficulty communicating with specific people is the big gap in the ways you both prefer to take in information, express, and think about things. What works for you may or may not work for someone else. There are 48 different combinations of how people prefer to receive information through their Visual, Auditory and Kinesthetic pathways and process it using their “left brain” (Sequential) and their “right brain” (Global). This creates nearly limitless potential for misalignment leading to misunderstanding and broken relationships.
Do you feel you have any control over these two questions?
- Does MY WAY of communicating match YOUR WAY of receiving?
- Does YOUR WAY of communicating match MY WAY of receiving?
You may be surprised to learn that you have lots of control of both situations. Here is a simple way to get started with the first question:
- Think about the ways other people prefer to receive and process information.
- Do they prefer to see it, do it or hear it?
- Do they prefer information presented in a logical and orderly manner or do they prefer a more open-ended presentation with possibilities and broad goals?
- Are you communicating on their wavelength or yours?
- A simple short cut is to ask how they prefer to receive and think about information. See what happens with rapport, respect and understanding.
The second question is very easy to implement with anyone at any time, provided you know your strongest sensory and cognitive thinking pathways. Ask people you live and work with to communicate on your wavelengths. Give some examples like “I need to see the big picture and possibilities. This means I appreciate visual material with summary points and would prefer a minimum of discussion with lots of detail.”
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