Communicating on Kinesthetic Wavelengths
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Do you have a spouse, friend or business associate with strong preferences for Kinesthetic communications? If you communicate similarly to them, you probably have some natural rapport based on physical action, movement and touch as a preferred way to receive information. If you prefer Visual (seeing information) or Auditory (hearing information) interactions over Kinesthetic, you and the other person may be experiencing strained and difficult communications. This is because both of you may not be receiving information on your preferred “wavelengths”, thus creating misunderstandings and frustration.
Everyone has their own unique and distinct preferences for taking in and processing sensory information, instructions, directions, requests and questions. When you customize and align your “transmitting style” with another’s preferred “receiving style,” you increase the probability for greater rapport and understanding. This neuroscience principle has enormous implications in all human relationships.
The following steps help you identify and connect with the Kinesthetic communicators in your life. Powerful neuroscience tools tune you into “kinesthetic wavelength” preferences to receive information, resulting in instant rapport, understanding and respect.
Step I: Identifying Kinesthetic Communicators
- Strengths: Moving into physical action quickly, with a minimum of visual and auditory information; hands-on activities; operating vehicles, equipment and tools;“gut feel” for people and situations
- Irritations: Physical discomfort; confined spaces; delays and obstacles; insufficient hands-on activities and things to physically do; long meetings with infrequent breaks; people who talk at rapid rates of speed
- Enjoy: Hands-on activities; driving and moving about; building and repairing things; travel; sports; touching
Step II: Connecting to Kinesthetic Communicators
- Universal Strategies: Seek to understand the other person’s point-of-view before expressing yours. Allow people to complete their thoughts and expressions before asking questions and trying to “second guess” what they are thinking. Make no assumptions and stay in the present moment. Keep an open mind.
- Environment: Select a comfortable environment with freedom to move about. Kinesthetic communicators usually respond positively to taking a walk, playing golf, driving and mealtime communications. Having things to handle (e.g. koosh ball, models, table-toys, pens and pencils) facilitates their processing.
- Primary Strategies: Kinesthetic communicators need to process what they see and/or hear with movement and physical action. Provide things to look at and touch. Combine walking, meals and field trips with discussions or reviewing materials. When pauses occur, allow time for “kinesthetic processing” (getting a feel for the information or situation.) Match their vocal speed; don’t talk too fast. Allow breaks every 20 minutes. Think: “What is their body language telling me? How can I incorporate more physical action into our communications?”
- Use Kinesthetic Language: Kinesthetic communicators use and prefer language like: Feels good/bad. I have a gut feel about this. Let’s do it. I have a handle on this. Pull some strings. Get moving.
In conclusion, it’s easy to identify and connect with Kinesthetic communicators using simple and powerful neuroscience tools. This brain-based approach tunes you into their preferred “kinesthetic wavelength” to receive information, which results in instant rapport, understanding and respect. These principles and practices are applicable to intimate relationships, families, business, government and sales situations. How and what to communicate are two sides of the same coin. Most people focus on the “what” and wonder why some communications fail.
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Are you experiencing strained and difficult communications with a family member, co-worker or friend? Is it possible that one of you is more Kinesthetic than the other and one of you is a Sequential thinker and the other is Global? Feeling misunderstood and unappreciated are tell-tale signs of a deteriorating relationship. Your difficulties may be due to big gaps in the ways you both communicate. Your Brain PathWays report gives you what you need to know and do to get on other peoples “wavelength.” You can repair, rebuild and improve important relationships now with powerful practical neuroscience communication tools for exceptional rapport. Click to purchase your Brain PathWays online self-assessment and download your report today.
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